6 As much as your older loved one may want to live independently, there may come a time when this is no longer feasible, and they need help to live life as fully and safely as possible. Home care is an excellent solution as it allows your loved one to stay in their own home while providing assistance where it is needed. However, at Home Care Assistance, we know that the idea of Home Care can be a complex topic and that older adults may resist this idea. When we are children, our parents often need to bring up topics that can be difficult to discuss, such as the birds and the bees. As our parents get older, the roles can change, and it is up to us to discuss complex topics with our parents. This can include issues around money, advance care directives, and the need to bring someone in to provide home care to support your loved one in their daily activities. Whether you are looking at going through a specialist provider such as Home Care Assistance or employing an individual to provide services, the topic can be tricky and can meet significant resistance. Many older adults don’t want to give up their independence and may see the need to bring in someone to help as admitting they are becoming less capable. Putting yourself in your loved one’s shoes and understanding how they may feel they are losing their sense of control and power over how they live can help you understand how difficult this might be for them. They may feel sad and frustrated that they are unable to live as independently as they were. Doing this lets you empathise with your parents and better acknowledge their fears and feelings. It is important to let them know that you understand how difficult this is for them and give them space to talk freely about their feelings, even if you disagree. Be Careful with Your Words - Adults can feel a significant loss of control when they need support for daily activities at home. Avoid using phrases such as “you must/need to…… “ or “you should……” Rather, frame the discussion to promote collaboration in reaching a solution. Share your concerns calmly and clearly and ask, ‘What can we do to keep you safe?’ Be collaborative and propose different ways in which help could be provided. One good way to do this is to ask your older loved one what it would look like if they had help with ‘x’. A good way to turn this into a positive is to talk about having help to free their energy up for activities they enjoy, such as puzzles, meeting friends, or attending the local community centre. Often, older loved ones spend all their energy on essential daily activities, leaving no time or energy to do the activities they enjoy. Taking some of this load off can help them return to these other activities. Consider Your Timing - It is often tempting to discuss home care during an argument or when something has happened. It is important to avoid these conversations when you are upset or something significant has just happened that has landed your loved one in the emergency room or put their safety at risk. When people are emotional, these conversations can quickly escalate, making it challenging to have calm and productive discussions. Wait until everyone is calm and you have time to have the conversation properly. This will also allow for an open discussion of your loved one’s fears. Addressing these fears is essential if your loved one will accept home care. Tap into Available Resources - Ensuring a loved one’s care is a marathon, not a sprint. Ensure you engage other family members and the loved one concerned in the conversation. If you are part of a village, use that village to support your loved one while keeping your loved one’s wishes at the core of all discussions. Many resources are available, and getting a home assessment to determine the type of care your loved one needs is a good start. This can help you determine whether there are options, such as handrails, that can also help your loved one stay safe. This is a big and often emotionally laden conversation. It does not have to be done all at once. Breaking the conversation down into key areas and having several conversations over time can be easier than solving every problem in one hit. Regular discussions also allow you to keep having conversations as your loved one’s needs change. The need to engage home care can be a difficult discussion. However, if your loved one has the support they need, it can make a huge difference to their life and that of your entire family. Remember to approach the discussion calmly and empathetically over time to help your loved one through this transition. 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